Trauma bonding tends to be defined as a strong attachment with someone (or something) abusing us or causing us harm. By this definition it is inherently negative, and the advice …
Category Archives: Relationships
Gracefully relinquishing power
Blog by Lukas
An old friend once looked me in the eye and, with all the seriousness he could muster, uttered words that have stayed with me to this day: …
Mothering our Spirits
Blog by Valerie
Some days I feel like I am running a race from the moment I wake up to ensure I use my time carefully to fulfil my responsibilities …
Calendar Year Reflections
Blog by Valerie
Honour all ancestors – of land, lineage and spirit. Live in balance. This is a steady life’s mission.
And even after years of this commitment, I can Honouring our Rage
Blog by Valerie
Rage matters. It’s a passionate, spirited emotion. Spirit keeps our inner fires burning and helps us feel alive. We need healthy spirits! I remember spiritual teacher Tom
… Witnessing
Blog by Valerie
Witnessing is an important method of learning and healing. In a MOOC (massive open online course) I recently completed on indigenous early child development, witnessing was …
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Blog by Valerie
Years ago when I was practicing restorative justice/discipline in schools, what consistently came up as the toughest aspect of change were periods of transition. Teachers said, when …
My initiation into adulthood was evil
Long Blog by Lukas
I suffered brutal bullying in high school. I also acted as a perpetrator. And a bystander. Sitting on all sides of this equation is perhaps the …
Mothering amidst intergenerational trauma
Blog by Valerie
‘We are cycles of time’ stuck in my head after reading a Chinese astrological perspective on the lunar new year before bed. I couldn’t sleep, and my …